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The following article is from the SAVES newsletter, The
VE Bulletin, Vol 17 No 2, Jul 00
Book Review
Richard Watrous, 'Shadowdad': When is life not worth living?
This recent addition to the SAVES library is reviewed
by Professor Jim Richardson, a patron of the society.
I have read few books, if any, which tell a more poignant story than
this account by Richard Watrous of the last five years in the life of his
father, Holly. The story is set in the USA state of New Hampshire in the
early 1990's. Provisions for the infirm elderly are much the same as our
own. It is generally accepted that the duty of doctors, nurses and ancillary
carers is to maintain life at all costs. Active voluntary euthanasia is
illegal. The conditions under which a 'living will' is effective are narrowly
circumscribed.
Holly had a major stroke at the age of 67. It left him paralysed on
one side of his body. It seriously impaired his thinking abilities. It
radically changed his personality - from proud, forceful, cheerful self-reliance
to embittered, irascible dependence. A second major stroke led to marked
deterioration. Holly became almost totally dependent, a shadow of his former
self - the author's 'shadowdad', kept alive in hospital and nursing home
by the 'wonders' of modern medicine.
Richard Watrous' account, based partly on his journal record and on
his letters, is moving, harrowing and sometimes brutal. He does not spare
the reader the more repugnant aspects of his father's condition. He writes
graphically of the stress in the family, as hope for Holly's recovery gives
way to the realisation that his father's physical and mental degeneration
and his suffering are irreversible. The starkness of the present is highlighted
by flashbacks to episodes in earlier and happier days, which are in themselves,
vivid pictures of life in a close-knit, working-class family.
A notable feature of the writing is the author's self-awareness. His
insightful account of his relationship with his father is intriguing. His
attitude seems ambivalent. Duty and love are primary motivating factors
- certainly on the surface - but with them the reader senses an underlying
resentment of a man who has dominated him over the years. It is a fascinating
picture of father-son relationships.
'Shadowdad' does not present a formal case for doctor-assisted suicide
and voluntary euthanasia - save briefly in the Epilogue. Members of SAVES
have access to much more detailed, documented advocacy. They will also
be familiar, either from personal experience or from the literature, with
many tragedies parallel to that of the Watrous family. Nevertheless they
will find 'Shadowdad' well worth reading and discussing. Its strength lies
in the clarity, the honesty and the passion of the writing. We can empathise
with the family. Its tragedy is one many of us are likely to experience
in one role or another. Because of this, more importantly, the book will
almost certainly reinforce our conviction of the need in our society for
lawful means to choose a dignified and peaceful exit when life becomes
intolerable.
Available from Studio 4 Productions, PO Box 280400 Northridge California
91328-0400 USA, or through Australian bookstores (US $11.95 plus postage
and handling)
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